Going off the path

Taking a slight turn off the path you follow as a carer on a daily basis can have dire consequences for you or the person you can for. Routines, patterns and methods are our building blocks and eventually supports to taking care of our loved one and hopefully ourselves.

But it can be suffocating. Stifling our own growth and hurting our confidence.

The routines I follow for Abbey are rigid. They have to be to keep her alive. There is not a lot of room to make changes to suit me, but I need to be adaptable as her situation changes.

There are times I feel myself getting stuck. Bored even. When exciting situations present, the default is, I can’t. There is no because, I just can’t. Most of the time I’m correct, there is no bloody way I can.

However when I’m not physically with Abbey, my brain still sits in the I Can’t bucket.

Today Nate and I visited the Bonorong Wildlife Sanctuary and had a personal tour from Bob. We fully recommend the experience!

On leaving I asked Bob about a short, quick hike, he looked like a fit, adventurous type. Mount Wellington was offered as a suggestion.

I typed it into the GPS and it advised an hour drive. Nate was tired and wanted to go back to the room to watch a movie. Boring, but easier. My default.

My brain and I fought with each other. I won and we went to Mount Wellington. If I had let my default position win, I would not have seen and touched snow for the first time in my life, or built a snowman, or seen the top of a rainbow.

Small turns off your default path. No matter how small, it’s worth it to find another journey that has not been taken before.